Do you have a special relationship right now? I hope your immediate response is to yourself. In all of your relationships, what is most important is what you have within yourself. Acceptance of your strengths and weaknesses is your core power to be able to go on in life with full confidence and courage. You may recognize it or not, but how you see yourself reflects on your relationship with people that may be your family, friends, partner, or community.
It is a life journey that you need to face every single day of your life. The challenge is how you handle it every single time it comes to you. This may be easy for some of you who have a good environment and people around you, but for those who do not, may you have the courage to be aware when it comes and face it and handle it with a pro.
I have experiences that shape my thinking of who I am in the way that I was raised as a child, which gives me a hard time seeing myself in a good way. My environment and the people around me unknowingly influence me in my thinking and I unknowingly negatively label myself. After having some available time to reflect and pray, slowly, I gain insight into learning that helps me to be aware of my mindset, thinking patterns, and behavior that gives me the ability to change and be a better version of myself.
There are ways that I can heal from those and move forward to self-development or personal improvements to achieve my full potential. This is just my own way of rebuilding my relationship with myself that helps me heal and grow. I hope sharing this may help you in simple ways.
Practical ways to rebuild your relationship with yourself.
1. Go somewhere where you can find peace within yourself.
It is recommended to find a place that has an ambiance of calm, peace, and silence. It may be in a specific location of your house , near a place in your home town or in nature, like the beach. It helps your body to feel relaxed and also calms the air that you breath, giving you freshness that you may first acknowledge the beauty of the place and be grateful for the opportunity to choose to be a better version of yourself.
2. Have a table of hope.
When setting up the table, be aware of every single item you place on the table. Place a cup of hot tea or coffee on the table, and bring one or more ballpens of your choice and your personal growth notebook. Please note to put away your phone that is not easily accessible in order to lessen the distraction of your focus.
3. Acknowledge the presence of God.
One of the most important parts of building a relationship with yourself is finding yourself in the presence of God. To do this, have a simple prayer that has conversation with God to ask him to guide you in your journey to create a healthy relationship within yourself. In your own way, pray for guidance and ask the Holy Spirit of God to guide and help you in this very challenging growth that you want to take. Surrender all your fears, worries, and anxiety so that you can intentionally choose hope, courage, strength, and perseverance through the holy presence of God.
4. What is your WHY?
In answering your why, it changes your purpose and intention of doing this in the first place. It gives you a sense of direction in terms of how you see, live, and accept yourself. When you feel like giving up due to the difficulty in the ways or many challenges you face, seek these pages of your personal development page to remind you of your purpose and intention and refresh you to go back and continue to grow and develop. Your effort is not a waste; it always has a good compounding effect through realistic progress and improvement of yourself as a person.
5. Know your history
Looking back and understating your environment and the people around you in your childhood years, the greatest impact on your childhood is the people raising you and how you were raised. You may recognize it or not, the way they think and respond to situations. You may unknowingly adapt to those behaviors and patterns of thinking. Make a list of people you mostly consider, who have been there entirely in your childhood. Then know their history, each one of them. They make connections between their history or past experiences and the way they see and approach life, their behavior and their thinking. You will gain insight into how the past shaped the way they are. They may recognize it or not. The important thing there is that they are the products of their environment and the people in their life. Then, identify with each person with whom you share the same behavior, thought pattern, or mindset. The moment you have that insight into your history, you have now gained the awareness of your current shape in your mindset, thinking pattern, and behavior. Accept that you are a product of your past experiences and history. With that, you gain the power of awareness and the power to change.
6. Pay attention to how you label yourself when you face difficulties.
Have the awareness that what you label to yourself can be either negative or positive. Negative words or phrases include stupid, idiot, boring, careless, not good enough, etc. You may recognize it or not. It reflects outside. Instead, use encouraging words to show you are growing, learning, challenging, etc. The benefit of practicing healthy labeling yourself is that it helps reduce stress, boosting confidence and resilience. Every morning, stand in front of the mirror and have a positive self-talk with yourself. Remind yourself that you are capable of achieving all your goals and dreams in life. You may use your mobile to assist you in reminding yourself, or the best one is to take some time to have a prayer to ask the Lord to be with you and guide you on this journey.
7. Practice healthy eating and regular exercise.
Eating healthy foods and regular exercise are ways to communicate to yourself that you have a good relationship with yourself. Intentionally creating a plan for your meals and time for exercise is an effort of love and having a good relationship with yourself.
7. Monitor and evaluate your progress.
Monitoring your progress will continue to remind you to process until you make it a habit in your life. Evaluate helps you know what areas need improvement and growth and how to use it to make strategies in planning for the future action taken.
" The most important asset toward success is you. So that no matter what happens in your life, you will always know who you are and will be able to rely on yourself."
-Ricadell S. De Arce
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